Why marry?

[Panther88]

Is it some kind of rule that says if 2 adults are happy in a relationship they have to get married before long?

Nope.

Why have a "relationship" in the first place?

 

[CEE DOG]

Don't know and not 'gon assume, like you.

I'm willing to bet if the 3 credit agencies did a poll it would show that 75% of the women who make good money in debt with bad credit and big cars with expensive cloths. :no:

 

[CriTAUcal]

I'm willing to bet if the 3 credit agencies did a poll it would show that 75% of the women who make good money in debt with bad credit and big cars with expensive cloths. :no:

Oh well. Nobody is perfect and bad credit can be repaired over time.
Ya'll negroes ain't perfect either, and some of ya'll got jacked up credit, too. :lol:

 

[jag4life]

If the woman is ready and pushing to get married, and the boyfriend isn't ready, that relationship can't be that good in my opinion. They're on two different pages.

It MUST be good if she wants to marry him and be together forever.

 

[CriTAUcal]

It MUST be good if she wants to marry him and be together forever.

Not necessarily. Some women just want to be married for the sake of having something on that left hand, third finger.

 

[jag4life]

You just can eliminate sex from marriage. It's a package deal. Like Crown Royal and the Purple bag... Ike and Tina... Red Beans and Rice... Fried Chicken and Mustard Greens.

Anywho, marrage was given by God and told us to do it and multiply.

dont for get finances, health benifits, and other moral reasons.

I am talking about eliminate PRE-marital sex.

Biblically didn't Paul make a statement about not marrying? (remember I said no pre-marital sex).

 

[CEE DOG]

Oh well. Nobody is perfect and bad credit can be repaired over time.
Ya'll negroes ain't perfect either, and some of ya'll got jacked up credit, too. :lol:

Never said that men didn't have it either, just that women bring all this fake bull to the table when it's really all about who gone pluck the big Richard in you and give you the financial security you looking for.

 

[jag4life]

Not necessarily. Some women just want to be married for the sake of having something on that left hand, third finger.

Of course.... that's another thread altogether...lol

 

[aamuprettywoman]

I'm willing to bet if the 3 credit agencies did a poll it would show that 75% of the women who make good money in debt with bad credit and big cars with expensive cloths. :no:

I don't think I can agree on that one Cee...
I'd find it very hard to believe that the majority of the educated, working women would be able to gather all those things and maintain it if they had bad credit.

Now if you're talking women in general...I'm sure a lot of women are in debt or have some form of bad credit, but not by choice. They're having to make ends meet for children they're not getting support for...and trying to support families of 2 or more on minimum income...20 to 30k and even less...
because they may little to no education or can't find a job that will pay them enough to make ends meet even if they are highly educated.
I could see that being a realistic poll.

 

[Panther88]

Biblically didn't Paul make a statement about not marrying?

:what:

That's been the premise of my entire life. :uhoh: :what:

You done said something now j4l. :smug: :tup:

 

[CriTAUcal]

Never said that men didn't have it either, just that women bring all this fake bull to the table when it's really all about who gone pluck the big Richard in you and give you the financial security you looking for.

Uhhhhh CEE, HUSH UP, OK? :lol:

 

[CEE DOG]

Not necessarily. Some women just want to be married for the sake of having something on that left hand, third finger.

That's what I have been preaching to you chicks for years. I see it's finally paying off.:lmao:

 

[CriTAUcal]

Of course.... that's another thread altogether...lol

Right. :lol:

 

[CriTAUcal]

That's what I have been preaching to you chicks for years. I see it's finally paying off.:lmao:

You ain't been preaching nothing to me.

 

[CEE DOG]

60% of the marriages in this country end over finances. These women want what they want today not tomorrow. Small percentages of marriages actually end of someone cheating.

I don't think I can agree on that one Cee...
I'd find it very hard to believe that the majority of the educated, working women would be able to gather all those things and maintain it if they had bad credit.

Now if you're talking women in general...I'm sure a lot of women are in debt or have some form of bad credit, but not by choice. They're having to make ends meet for children they're not getting support for...and trying to support families of 2 or more on minimum income...20 to 30k and even less...
because they may little to no education or can't find a job that will pay them enough to make ends meet even if they are highly educated.
I could see that being a realistic poll.

 

[silentrage]

Is it some kind of rule that says if 2 adults are happy in a relationship they have to get married before long?

Nope.

 

[Tony]

Is it some kind of rule that says if 2 adults are happy in a relationship they have to get married before long?

If they having sex it is.

 

[BLAQUE PRINCE]

But if everything is good in the relationship, why leave? Why move from a loving relationship to uncertainty?

I imagine the party seeking marriage would see the other party as uncertain. I don't think the issue is as simple as the initial question.

One person may know what they are looking for and feel they have found it. If the other person doesn't feel that way they should make that clear and there should be no pressure on them. But the unsure party should at least try to point out the source of uncertainty IMO. Just saying "I'm not ready to marry" doesn't do much for establishing or maintaining a trusting relationship.