Sir Gram every organization has a set of rules for Intake. If you follow the rules, you will be fine, but if you let people who are in the organization break those rules that were given you then that is on you. Everyone must abide by the rules, if they do not it becomes personal. Too many folks are on the street with their own ideas about what should be. There are thousands of inactive Greeks who love to get involved without being good dues paying members. Greek Letter Organizations are professional Organizations that need to make sure we are about what we say and not acting like gangs. But again when you are given your directions for joining follow those rules and nothing will happen. If someone wants to teach you how to step it should be something that everyone participates in and not just to lure people for punishment.
I often see many new members having to answer a thousand questions about the organization when it is not necessary, but if a new member does not have the answer they are looking for, physical action is taken on that individual, when the simplest form of identification is my card for your card. Once I look at your picture and you look at mine then it should be over. But I know cards can be fake, but I don't have to get into Fraternal Business with that individual, but we have established recognition
