O.K.
In light of how spirited and refreshing our dialogue has been on the subject of homosexuality, I have a little courage to pose this theory I have to you guys in this forum.
**DISCLAIMER**
I am a Christian. Far from where I want to be but giving my best to walk faithfully so my theory is deeply seeded in the Bible. PLEASE DON'T TAKE MY COMMENTS AS MALE SHOVENISM. I work for 2 ladies who I can witness are more intelligent than I am and I respect them dearly. Would follow them to any region of the country. Also, I love my momma and beleive that she is truly one of the greatest PEOPLE walking the face of the earth.
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Having said that, here's my 'THEORY' on why marriages and families are failing today.
I believe that today we are witnessing the highest divorce rates, broken and single parent homes and unwed mothers for one singular reason. . .
The breakdown of GOD's design for the family structure.
This is what I mean by this. . .
In today's society, equality is at a premium. Race, ethnic origin, sexual preference, religion and most importantly SEX are all demographics that have been targeted as discrimantory and our country has gone through great lengths to ensure that our society operates on an 'All are Equal' premise. Now far from perfect it is but a sincere effort and an ingrained part of the 'American Way' it is as well. 'Not being discrimianted against' is definately desires of us all, especially those of us who are in a minority.
This Equality when it relates to the sexes started in the work place. 'Equal pay for Equal work' was a battleing cry for women's rights groups and has since blazed the trail for women in this country to gain economic and political strength in this society. This ECONOMIC EMPOWERMENT in particular may be the seed of distruction to the family unit as we knew it.
My Theory:
God designed the man to lead the family. In any organization, whether it be a business, a social club, church, and yes, even the family requires clear leadership. Churches have elders. Businesses have owners/directors. Clubs have presidents. Why? To make decision, keep order and resolve problems structure is needed the buck has to stop somewhere. What happens when no one is in charge? MUTINY , ANARCHY, CHAOS!!!!
I believe that God made a design for the family and designated a leader because of this. And God chose the man to head the home. Women in many cases may be more intelligent, wiser, better at managing money, more disciplined etc. But GOD designated the man to lead. Why? I don't know but it is the reality that the Bible prescribes.
ECONOMIC EMPOWERMENT has changed the landscape. At one time, even without the biblical influence, women were dependent on there husbands, totally in many cases, to provide. Women stayed home, men worked and earned wages. So I firmly believe that these women, smarter, wiser, 'better' than many of their husbands, bit their lip and submitted themselves to their husbands leadership based purely on PRIMAL NEED! When it came down to it, the bread winner had the last say. ALL of that changes when Sue earns as much or more than Jim. Now, Sue has the freedom to chose to do things her way. If Jim doesn't like it, Sue will get her own place, pay her own bills.... SUE IS A GROWN WOMEN AND SHE DON'T NEED NO MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER. So when that arguement about 'how much we should spend on this' comes up. Or the 'we should do this instead of that' Or 'I want to go here and you want to go there' or the very plausible 'My career is going left and your career is growing right' debate arises . . . . WHO'S IN CHARGE? WHERE DOES THE DECISION MAKING POWER STAND? DO WE HAVE MUTINY, CHAOS, ANARCHY?
Maybe we have. . . . DIVORCE
Your thoughts?
