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ASU2002

ASU2002

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Didn't know whether to put this on the Prayer Board or Small Talk.

How would one let a C.O.G.I.C. missionary know that her daugther is pregnant out of wedlock?
 
Very carefully. I'd ask God for direction. Whether I ought to tell, what I need to say & how I need to say it.
 



Are you the daughter?? The COGIC missionaries spouse? The out of wedlock baby daddy??

If none of these, I don't think you should be tellin' it. I don't feel that it is your place. It's a personal matter.

i know I don't want no church member telling me what's happening in my house.


If you're the daughter. PRAYER. Ask GOD to let your words be the right ones, may they fall upon open ears & mind and let him do the work.
 
Bengal E said:
Are you the daughter?? The COGIC missionaries spouse? The out of wedlock baby daddy??

If none of these, I don't think you should be tellin' it. I don't feel that it is your place. It's a personal matter.

i know I don't want no church member telling me what's happening in my house.


If you're the daughter. PRAYER. Ask GOD to let your words be the right ones, may they fall upon open ears & mind and let him do the work.
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It's just tough. She made the statement the other day that she trust me until I give her reason not to.
 
ASU2002 said:
It's just tough. She made the statement the other day that she trust me until I give her reason not to.
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Just pray about it. Pray that she will be understanding and supportive.
Hopefully, you're not giving her enough credit and will be more understanding than you think.

Being pregnant out of wedlock is not the end of the world! It may not be the direction you or the missionary want, but GOD always has a way of making the best out of any not-so-good or unexpected situation. Trust God!
 
God "allows" thing to happen for a reason.


"Trust You"

That's where it should stop!

If not it becomes gossip and can do more damage than good. Gossip is like a feather in a hurricane, once it gets into the wind only God knows where it will end up.

Be Careful
 
CriTAUcal said:
Being pregnant out of wedlock is not the end of the world! It may not be the direction you or the missionary want, but GOD always has a way of making the best out of any not-so-good or unexpected situation. Trust God!
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Good post.
 
ASU2002 said:
Didn't know whether to put this on the Prayer Board or Small Talk.

How would one let a C.O.G.I.C. missionary know that her daugther is pregnant out of wedlock?
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Do it according to the scripture..
Mat 18:15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
Mat 18:16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
Mat 18:17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
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She is going to need much prayer, counsel and support! I can't stress it enough. Keep talking to her and encourage her to pray and tell her parents. Prepare her for the worst and best reactions because it will be one or the other. The news should come from her mouth. Fathers typically explode, scream how and why, stop talking and may even talk about putting their daughter out the house. Mothers typically blame themselves but they have more compassion than fathers initially. I would say if you are a male when the father is told be their for him as a brother in prayer, friend and someone with logic for him to understand "God will not take you to something without taking you through it". Father typically look at what people will think and it not about them but what is best for the family. If you are a female do the same for the mother because she is going to have to be the father's Godly Conscience. Be there for the daughter also because she will need a Godly friend during the storm especially so she will not do anything harmful.
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This is a Fragile Situation and it must be Handled with Prayer. I know! Been there done that!
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I can't just stress enough for mothers to talk to their children; create and maintain an environment inviting enough for children to come and talk to them. I know when something is wrong with my children and instead of waiting for them to talk to me, I will not let up until they spill it out. They know when they hurt I hurt and nothing they do is too bad for my hears and heart. I make sure I do not react by the words " I told you so". Then I can take it to my husband or be with them when he is informed.
 
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