I dated/had a long term relationship with one of my friend's ex. Here's the scenario...she and I did not become friends until 1998. She dated/live with him for 2 years, 1986-88. She never talked about him, I never knew about their relationship. I met him in 2003, started our relationship in March 2004 and two weeks in I mentioned her name about something my friends were getting together for and he told me about them. They were together 10 years before I even met her and 20 years before I met him. We were already in love and we proceeded. Our group of friends were like hey we are grown ass folk and whatever makes you happy. There was a little tenseness on her part, but not for us.
I was not desparate, or crossed up or low down, it is/was it is/was. I would do it if they were married and then divorced, coupled, whatever. We have a set of friends and both couples divorced. Well the exwives were talking and wife#1 who was remarried asked her ex to escort the friend to a ball. He said okay, took wife#2 to the ball, had a fabulous time and 6 months later they were married and have been for 6 years. No harm, no foul.
I guess when you get our age, the BS calms down a lot. :lol: