major095 said:
you missed my point.....I'm not even debating if some people develop a natural preference for someone of the same gender very early in life. I believe that does occur. I do find it odd that we adults try and subscribe some type of sexual orientation on children, most of whom have exhibited no sexual behavior, but I digress. my point is that who or what you are is in your hands, it's your choice regardless of what your natural preference is.
for example...since some of you are big on science. many years ago a study was released that indicated that some people are born with a gene(s) that make them more likely to become alcholics than the average person. now, because they have that gene is it ok for them to be alcholics... I mean, they were born that way. if they can't hold down a job, if they hurt someone in an auto accident b/c they were drunk, and after all....they have the gene, that excuses them right? of course not, b/c after all is said or done it is still their choice to put the bottle to their lips. and in the case that they know they are at risk for alcholism it's their responsibilty to steer as far away from consuming alchol as possible.
using the same train of thought, if one has a genetic predispostion for homosexuality, what is their responsibility in regard to their behavior? (now this applies only to Christians, I don't expect people that dont love JC to follow His rules) it would be their responsibility, knowing the get weak in the knees when they go into the lockerroom w/ the fellas to stay outta the lockerroom....if your not trying to sleep w/ another man that is.
their is no absolving personal responsibility. to say otherwise and to just say "I was born this way and can't help it" is to say, I have no more power over my actions than does my dog. again, why should you deny yourself? as a Christian we are taught that we are to deny ourselves, less me more Him.
finally, both of my daughters were born with sickle cell. they could not help it. what they do have a choice in though is if it will be a burden. we choice that it won't. we also choice to not accept that b/c they were born with it means they will live a lifetime with it. maybe you or others feel that they don't have choices. I do, and let me tell ya, it feels pretty good to know I can chose to follow One who can deliver me from anything that comes my way.
homosexuality used to be a recognized mental disorder, but was removed from dsr IV I believe. nymphomania was still a recognized mental disorder until 1987 (so don't blame that brother that cheated on you in highschool....you were at the wrong part of your cycle and he just had to get some.....it's ok right, he was born that way..lol)
I didn't say anything about absolving personal accountability from the lifestyle choices you make. That has nothing to do with
why a person is inclined to feel the way they do or why they're attracted to a specific gender. If anything, a person would be shirking that accountibility if they weren't honest with themselves about whatever crisis they're facing involving their sexual identity, especially prior to interacting with other folk.
Yeah, some folks choose to ignore it and get into heterosexual relationships, hoping that how they feel will somehow just "go away". Then, years down the line (when the issue hasn't "gone away"), you've got a situation where a man (or woman) is conflicted about who they are and why they are...
Then folks wonder what's wrong with these cats that step out of their marriages on the DL with someone else of the same gender. what could drive someone to do that in the first place? They wasn't being honest with themselves in the first place and tried to bury the conflict rather than addressing it.
You can't compare this to someone whose born with sickle cell (BTW, it's good to see your seeds flourishing!!!! :smash: :nod2: :tup: ), or tay-sachs, or whatever...
You ignore sickle cell and it will kill you; You ignore tay-sachs, or Multiple Sclerosis, or Lou Gherig's disease and you'll be pushing up daisies before you can pronounce the disease.
It's the same premise with folks in this situation...Is that person accountable for his or her actions?
Absolutely...But we're (collectively) just as accountable for trying to understand why things like this happen the way they do. Whether you explain it away as something that completely choice-driven, or examine the evidence at hand and look for other reasons or causes.
I'm christian also...That doesn't absolve me from looking to find out how and why things are the way they are...there are some instances of homosexuality that's entirely personal choice...There are also instances where the person had a pre-disposition for it for the great majority of their lives, or they were born with it.
Does the schizophrenic take personal responsibility for being insane? Did he choose to be insane? Is it a condition that he can reverse whenever he wants to?
There's alot more to tis than just "he chose to do it because it feels good."