from my experiences, i have male and female friends and from my previous relationships.......from the female aspect....(i get my sources from girl talk) most if not all my friends are college educated and most of their others are not. that poses the first problem because she is already exposed to much more that he and there is some jealousy involved becase he hasn't seen much more than the old neighborhood. most of my friends have nice secure well paying jobs while their others don't, that often causes a problem (married friends) because he spends his money and is always trying to borrow from her. their men are irresponsible with money, house chores, and family obligations. to make that story short- my girlfriends end up having an extra child (their other's) who knows how to hang out with the guys, fck off, etc. but is just not quite that functional adult and truth be told, a couple of those brother's will be getting walking papers. what makes it sad was the guy was perfect at first then when they either got married or deep into the relationship, he flipped the script.
for the males- the biggest complaint is she is always tired, dosen't dress sexy anymore, not female enough, too emotional, has gained weight, my favorite "she has let herself go", she never wants to do anything, she's spolied,(you talk now, but if u have a daughter, you know and if you don't u will), she is on the phone all day, she has no sense, she's always gone with her girlfriends and they are some PROS. i could go on all day but i refer them to the above paragraph.
- she wasn't fat until she had your child or you took her arse out to eat every night while you were trying to get up in those jeans, she is emotional because of your triflin arse, she is tired because you all are 90/10 with the children and plus she has had to clean up, cook, tend to the children, see just what the HE>> you wanted when you cut the dayum playstation off. she dosen't dress sexy as much because you are either gone or the boys are over.
me myself, my ideal man would be one that works(full-time) somewhere other burgerking, he loves to read, up on politics, can manage his money, strong, understanding, has long and short term goals, can play me in the playstation, shoot pool, bowls, has to be a jsu fan, somewhat cultured (ex. likes art galleries, museums, etc.) knows how to act in public, has more than elementary conversation, have an occasional beer, grey goose, remy martin etc. and to ensure his happiness, i cook, clean, take care of my home, i have my own money, i read(am intelligent), bottom line- i do what i have to, to keep that man of mine happy.
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