why they won't commit

[ree]

I was sent this in an email. What are some of your opinions?Subject: Men and marriage
> >
> >Thought this was interesting...sent to me from a friend...
> >
> >Men and Marriage: Don't Fool Yourself, It's Not That
> Complicated(from a man's point of view...hmmmm!) Last week we threw a
> bachelor party for one of our good friends and then on Saturday
> afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he and his fiance'
> said their vows. As I stood up there looking across the crowd, I
> decided that our next topic on this page would definitely talk about
> marriage. I also realized that alot of women may not want to hear
> the truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple
> that they could not accept it without questioning their own
> relationship. But I am here to tell you - DON'T FOOL YOURSELF,
> IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. The sad thing about it is that it took a woman
> to
> bring it to my attention. I had a close friend of mine
> tell me that she was persuing a stable man with a girlfriend. When
> I asked her did she feel wrong about that she said "Man, a girlfriend
> ain't nothin - girlfriends come and go. If the ***** is established and he
> isn't either married or engaged, then he is not that serious about her and
> he is fair game" I thought about this for a minute and came to a cold
> conclusion: IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT
> MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS
> WITH.
> He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for
> something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point
> blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her
> his
> wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't
> take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3
> years
> either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a
> time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me,
> that's definately what he was doing all of those years. So if you should
> happen to find yourself in one of those "long term" relationships then
> maybe
> you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that
> you're missing that this man is not willing to fully commit. Don't make
> excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's
> waiting til he gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish
> school" or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house".
> DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. Which one of those things
> can't be done with a wife or fiance' by your side?
> So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man
> that you are living with. Or the one that you spend many nights over
> his house or him over yours. Think about your baby's father that you are
> still in a sexual relationship with. Think about your "ex" that you are in
> a
> sexual relationship with. Think about your "boyfriend". And definately
> think
> twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and
> you still have no commitment. Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know
> the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some
> extremely reasonable excuses, but.....DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT
> COMPLICATED.
>

 

[ALJSU3]

Very true.

 

[JSTUS]

That's a good summation.

 

[Palatine]

Ree, unfortunately you forgot to post the last part of the e-mail.


"Very True, very true... Men don't want to commit
because they feel their is a problem that needs to be
fixed. 70% of the time it's them and 30% it's the
women. Nothing is ever perfect in life, but they're
scared about making a LIFE LONG commitment with that
negative 30%. Yes you can divorce if it doesn't work
out, but then you wasted each others time and money.
Some people just like to make pratical decisions in
life. A woman is not like a lease, you can't marry
her for a 36-month or 48-month open ended term"

All people are entitled to their opinion, which is what this e-mail basically is. See I did some research in regards to this issue. It is shown that most marriages that start quick, ends quick. I guess it is what we would call a marriage of lust. 55% of those marriages to be exact. Just click on the link below and you will be intrigued on how opinionated this e-mail that you received was.


Marriage Research

The e-mail that Ree posted may seem true, but that guy does not know the majority of men. He only speaks for himself. He makes it bad for men that want to do the right thing.
:redhot:

 

[aamuprettywoman]

Yep...

I Agree. People are individuals. While there may be some who can relate to email, it doesn't necessarily relate to "all" or the majority. Women would probably do themselves a lot more good if they'd ask themselves some of the same questions they're pushing off on the brother. If you can answer the questions you ask of him to your own satisfaction and he can't answer them or won't.... 9 times out of 10 you don't need to be in that relationship. Move on. It's life.