My Brokenheart


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*MyHeartPVU*

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Hello my fellow SWACERS,
I have a question and I need your honest opinions! I am in love with my best friend whom has tried to go out with me for about two years. At the time, I basically felt that his friendship meant more to me than anything and I would be devastated if I ever lost his friendship. Deep down I knew I liked him but I didn't want to ruin what we had because we were so close. He has given me hints in the past but I brushed them off at the time.
We used to sit up on the phone for hours and we always hang out at the same spots and I actually had an opportunity to see him at a wedding a couple of weeks ago and it hit me that I really have deep feelings for him. When he had a girlfriend in the past and I had a boyfriend in the past---it didn't matter because we still kept in contact. Now, even though he and his girlfriend have been together for about six months I have not heard from him in four months. I don't know what to do but I feel compelled to say something to him because I really like him. I not only lost my best friends friendship but I lost him completely.

An inquiring mind would like to know if she should keep her mouth shut or pursue her happiness and regardless of the outcome----atleast he will know EXACTLY how I felt!!

On your mark.......get set.......
 
Originally posted by *MyHeartPVU*
Hello my fellow SWACERS,
I have a question and I need your honest opinions! I am in love with my best friend whom has tried to go out with me for about two years. At the time, I basically felt that his friendship meant more to me than anything and I would be devastated if I ever lost his friendship. Deep down I knew I liked him but I didn't want to ruin what we had because we were so close. He has given me hints in the past but I brushed them off at the time.
We used to sit up on the phone for hours and we always hang out at the same spots and I actually had an opportunity to see him at a wedding a couple of weeks ago and it hit me that I really have deep feelings for him. When he had a girlfriend in the past and I had a boyfriend in the past---it didn't matter because we still kept in contact. Now, even though he and his girlfriend have been together for about six months I have not heard from him in four months. I don't know what to do but I feel compelled to say something to him because I really like him. I not only lost my best friends friendship but I lost him completely.

I had a friend like that in high school. My whole family like him, but to me he was just a close friend to me. Well, after high school he basically said he has had feelings ever since the ninth grade for me. Well, I did the same thing you did; brush him off. Now, that I'm older I realized that he was the perfect man for me. But as always its a little too late for realization, because he's engaged and he moved overseas. So, if you have the chance to say something by all means SAY IT!!!
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Originally posted by *MyHeartPVU*
Hello my fellow SWACERS,
I have a question and I need your honest opinions! I am in love with my best friend whom has tried to go out with me for about two years. At the time, I basically felt that his friendship meant more to me than anything and I would be devastated if I ever lost his friendship. Deep down I knew I liked him but I didn't want to ruin what we had because we were so close. He has given me hints in the past but I brushed them off at the time.
We used to sit up on the phone for hours and we always hang out at the same spots and I actually had an opportunity to see him at a wedding a couple of weeks ago and it hit me that I really have deep feelings for him. When he had a girlfriend in the past and I had a boyfriend in the past---it didn't matter because we still kept in contact. Now, even though he and his girlfriend have been together for about six months I have not heard from him in four months. I don't know what to do but I feel compelled to say something to him because I really like him. I not only lost my best friends friendship but I lost him completely.

An inquiring mind would like to know if she should keep her mouth shut or pursue her happiness and regardless of the outcome----atleast he will know EXACTLY how I felt!!

On your mark.......get set.......
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Sorry about that, the bottom half is my statement!
 
okay lets be real!!!! what was the main reason you didnt tell him you had these strong feelings? where you scared of rejection?:confused:

in my opinion you really should have told him because he might have been going through the same type feelings you were and then it would have worked out just fine! nowits kinda too late and you best believe if you tellhim this now alot of things are gonna go through his head on why are just now letting these feelings be known.....Im in school right now and I went through the same thing with one of my friends and 1 day we just hooked up and let all our emotions out by talking about how we really really felt about each other!!!! and everything just turned out fine.......In your situation if you still have these feelings for him you need to tell him!!!! You never know he might break up with his girl and try you;) Now how real is that shawty:cool: :D
 
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Well, MHPVU? I have to wonder something. Why do you want him now that he is taken? You had allllllllllllllllllll that time in the past and you never took advantage of it. Now that you are single and he is not, you want him???? I am not questioning your feelings for him or anything, but you need to really see this. Maybe you are just feeling lonely and you are comfortable with him. Now that he has a girlfriend and you are not in the picture, you are feeling a little rejected and your feelings are in overdrive. I don?t know? but I do know this? just because your best friend has not contacted your in a few months doesn?t mean you have lost his friendship. I too have a male best friend and if I am in a relationship or he is in one, we don?t have the time to dedicate to each other. However, though thick and then he is forever my boy.

Plus? if you care about him the way you say you do, you would not disrespect his current relationship. What is for you is FOR YOU. If he is for you patience and time will show you. Don?t force it. In the meantime? move forward.
 
Originally posted by blaquebuterfly
Well, MHPVU? I have to wonder something. Why do you want him now that he is taken? You had allllllllllllllllllll that time in the past and you never took advantage of it. Now that you are single and he is not, you want him???? I am not questioning your feelings for him or anything, but you need to really see this. Maybe you are just feeling lonely and you are comfortable with him. Now that he has a girlfriend and you are not in the picture, you are feeling a little rejected and your feelings are in overdrive. I don?t know? but I do know this? just because your best friend has not contacted your in a few months doesn?t mean you have lost his friendship. I too have a male best friend and if I am in a relationship or he is in one, we don?t have the time to dedicate to each other. However, though thick and then he is forever my boy.

Plus? if you care about him the way you say you do, you would not disrespect his current relationship. What is for you is FOR YOU. If he is for you patience and time will show you. Don?t force it. In the meantime? move forward.
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Spoken like a real WOMAN:o
 
Wow this a touchy situation. I say because he is in a relationship. I had a friend like that and I passed on him and now he is married. I wish I would have said something but like I didn't realize my feelings until he was in the relationship but out of respect for his relationship I kept quiet. I sometimes have regrets about that but if he's happy then that's ultimately what I wanted for him.
I think you should sit down and really think about your feelings for him. Make sure that its him you want and not just the security he birngs becasue you know him. If he is happy in his relationship then why bring all this confusion in it? This may backfire and you won't have him as a friend.

Just some things to think about.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
 
Let him know how you feel. There is no gurantee on a positive or a negative outcome...a true friend will always be there for you.
Lost in a familiar place...
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Originally posted by jelli
Wow this a touchy situation. I say because he is in a relationship. I had a friend like that and I passed on him and now he is married. I wish I would have said something but like I didn't realize my feelings until he was in the relationship but ou of respect for his relationship I kept quiet. I sometimes have regrets about that but if he's happy then that's ultimately what I wanted for him.
I think you should sit down and really think about your feelings for him. Make sure that its you want and not just the security he birngs becasue you know him. If he is happy in his relationship then why bring all this confusion in it. This may backfire and you won't have him as a friend.

Just some things to think about.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
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Was it me Jelli, Was it me???? :confused:
I knew it, I knew it!!!!! :D :D

Just Joking Girl. I believe i know who you are talking about. :cool:

I dont See anything wrong with talking about your feelings to this person. As long as you dont disrespect yourself, by throwing yourself to him.
Just be a woman about it. :D
 
I apologize for the late response but I had to attend a conference in Boston. Thank you all soooooo much for the valuable input and I will take everything into consideration. I know what my heart tells me and it has nothing to do with his relationship but everything to do with the wedding I attended. I respect him as a person and because of that I will have every reason to respect his relationship and his wishes. One thing I do know for sure, if he asks then I will tell;otherwise, I will not say a word and wonder WHAT IF. Take care and I love each and every one of you for your support. I will keep you posted if anything should prosper.
 
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