So many questions...so little time...
How do you feel about a husband and wife living in separate states for an indefinite period of time (not because of military assignment) and only seeing each other a few weekends a month? Is that really a marriage?
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If I were already married, I'd just deal with it until we can be together. It would be hard, but I would deal with it. However, military lifestyle, men in the military are completely off limits for this puddin. No offense, but I'm not dating or marrying anyone who has to spend a lifetime away from me. A year, two years away...not knowing what's going on in our lives etc..is not marriage or my idea of marriage.</font>
How do you feel about wives with hyphenated last names?
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Lets see, I'm Valerie Fuller and I'd prefer to be Valerie Fuller + husband's last name.
But, I'm can't promise I'll change my last name if I ever get married. Either way, I'd do what makes us both happy. Of course, that will be whatever "I decide".:emlaugh:</font>
How do you feel about the husband wanting children and the wife not?
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You should know this answer and have discussed it long before saying "I do." If a man or woman does not want children that's their perrogative. Different experiences have different outcomes and influences on people. It's simply not meant for everyone to have children, just like it's simply not meant for everyone to get married.
If you want children, don't marry someone who doesn't.
If you don't want children, don't marry someone who does.
It's that simple. No one should have to feel pressured to do so after marriage if it has already been discussed and decided upon prior to saying I do. The outcome could result in separation/divorce. You can't make a person feel something they don't. </font>