Originally posted by MightyDog
I watch Change of Hearts on TV. If you have seen this show, I am sure you will agree that when one mate is discussing their affair the one that is doing the listening and watching the video tape show a sign of rejection... and disappointment. Then when the mate discuss their date, their mate shows a sign of rejection. Neither one can really accept what the other one is saying. Even when one mate select change of heart you will hear a comment that he or she didn't mean it.
Now what ever fire that brought you together will always be there, because you don't miss what you have until you lose it. There are still some good traits in every relationship which can not be dismissed. What caused one to be an Ex? Maybe if she could have gotten around the snoring, the affair or marriage could have worked. Then the Ex was not that bad when comparing him or her to the new mate.
As long as you can keep Exs from stirring the pot, things will work out ok, but if the Exs are put into certain positions, then it takes some strong will power to resist the temptation. Now if you departed on hate or split too soon because you caught your Ex cheating then it could be in the back our your mind that you like this person. You don't care who this person is married to or dating, all you know is you want this person back.
WISDOM HAS SPOKEN!