This article isn't about black male interaction in white world...it's focus is black man within the black world and his interaction with black women...
Hurt people hurt people....that's what I see in our communities...the impotence felt in the world gets meted out and testosterone reclaimed locally as "king" roles in our communities....
I don't think he researched enough of society to even write the piece.
Also, a part of me really does not believe that some black women tell the truth. For example, I have told my mother that her generation has thrown out too many confusing messages to the younger black women. For example my mother will cook my father (when he was alive) his favorite meal, even fix his plate. Yet, would tell women they need to be independent and not worry about a man. .
Ok I called her and her friends out on it once. My question was simple, how do you women stay married 30 years but a woman in the present day can't stay married 5 years?
Moreover I don't think many black males are equally not honest. Be real with who you are and what you want.
It's like some women want to be married with a family; but lack the understanding of what it means to be a wife and vice versa for men.
I bullshit on the page but this is my take on marriage; there are roles in the relationship. There are things that I do for the house and that my wife does. The washing machine broke, all my wife did was tell me that it was broke and went and started watching TV. I got on youtube and figured out how to fix it. She was baking one day and I told her "I think the cake is burning." She said, "do I tell you if the lawn is mowed crooked?" I shut up.
In short people are trying to examine relationships so deeply that they forget to even look at the surface. What works for one may not work for another. I'm happy with my marriage because we both talked early on about our visions on life. This has led to happiness. Are there bumps, hell yes, but they are resolved because we reach back to our basis of being together. Most cannot do that because either they are listening to others or wanting what someone else has without being willing to put in the work.
This is one of the reasons why I prefer reading articles where it gives background to the writer. How can you tell someone who has kids how to raise them if you never had kids, discuss relationships when you are not in one, talk about how to have a successful marriage if you are divorced, give divorce advice if you have never been divorced; and the list goes on.
If I have offended you as a woman I apologize.
